Done Justifying

It doesn’t matter how long we knew each other before we started dating or how long we were engaged before we got married.  It doesn’t matter the circumstances under which we met, either.  If we were two Americans or two Peruvians there would never be a question of motives.
 

When I met my husband, he was 36 years old.  He had been in the U.S. for over 7 years and if he had wanted to marry “for papers” he could have done it in much less than that amount of time, but that was never his plan.  As a 36-year-old man, though, he was ready to settle down.  He was looking for a nice girl with whom he could spend the rest of his life and create a family with.  Now, if my husband were a 36-year-old American, this would not be at all odd.  In fact, it might be considered quite common.   But, because he’s from Peru, everyone wants to automatically think that he was just looking for a way to get legal.

But, I know that my husband loves me and he knows that I love him and, above all, God knows that we love each other.  We’re the only three that are truly able to judge our situation and it angers me that I would ever have to stand trial as to the validity of my marriage to anyone else.

My parents never had to explain why they love each other or prove that love and neither have any of my married friends or family members.  And I’m sure that there are American citizen couples who marry for less virtuous reasons than just pure love.  There are people that marry every day for money, but not even they have to stand trial and explain their motivations.  So why should I?

I’m done trying to gain the acceptance of others.  Let them think what they will.  God, The Dreamer and I know the truth, and that’s all that matters.